I need dating advice need everyone's help!!!?

I am 21 years old. I have never had a girlfriend in my life. I have dated girls but I have never been in a relationship. It's not that i'm scared to talk to them, I just can't find anyone that I would be interested in asking - but when I do, then I do get the butterflies and what not. Then I find a girl and she has a kid or something which I can't stand. I have hypochodria, I feel like a girl would greatly get my mind off my health worries, I am so depressed right now, a girl would change my life, I would have someone to talk to (besides my guy frends) when needed. It is very sad to me, I wish I had a girl to share my life with, go to the movies with , etc. I can't find anyne. I've gone to bars, church, I havent tried online dating though. Any suggestions??? I am super depressed!!!I need dating advice need everyone's help!!!?
I think youve answered your own question. The fact that your totally depressed is going to send any decent woman running for the hills. What 21 year old woman wants a depressed man. Women want fun loving, confident, manly men, not a depressed whos going to make them depressed. I think you need to remove the focus of not having a relationship and start working on yourself, and you will be really suprised at how they will come flocking!