Really complicated dating advice needed!!!?

Ok i'll try and make this simple as possible.


This guy and i fell in love. I was dating someone else, broke up with him to be with this guy. Things were going good, told him i wasn't ready yet to have a committment. time went on, and on and on, and i was ready. Now HE doesn't want a committment right now and said he can't give me an answer why cause he doesn't even know. he said he does love me. It's not one of those one way things he calls me, takes me out to dinner, i go over there, he comes here, etc. very two way.


ANYWAYS... last night we had a major falling out. I had had a long day at school and he let me know because of a family emergency he wouldn't be able to come up to visit (i live about an hour away). So he was in a bad mood, i was in a bad mood. Anyway, i found out he dropped his brother off (who lives five min away from me) and asked why he couldn't stop by for five minutes, and that it makes me really mad when he does that.Really complicated dating advice needed!!!?
I read the whole thing twice, but I'm not exactly sure what to tell you, heh. I can totally understand why you'd be upset if he was right in the neighborhood and anyway, and because of the ';What makes you think you're important enough?'; line.





I don't think your ultimatum worked out too well, and in general I don't think those lead to happy endings. There's a difference between having a non-negotiable issue in a relationship that you express calmly in a serious talk and making an on-the-spot ultimatum, right?





My best advice for now would be to try to just let things settle down for a couple weeks and hope cooler heads prevail. If and when you do get to contact him next, you can start by apologizing for anything you felt you really did wrong and explain how you were feeling. That will probably soften his mood and allow him to not feel defensive, and then maybe you can talk more about the serious issues you guys are or were facing, like why he seemed to be drifting away from you. Just be careful not to invalidate his feelings.





I'm not sure what's going to happen, but don't despair yet! It may well be a rough and uncertain time, but hang in there! Good luck!