Beginner dating advice needed please?

ok soo im tryin this online dating thing, im 22, and found someone that i like and she likes me, but she lives 12 hours away and we havent met in person yet, anyways she is just tryin to go way to fast with a relationship, after the first night of chatting, she says she want me soo bad and everytime we talk or text she says she misses me soo much, 3 days into chatting and talking she's sayin she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me.


i wont say something that i dont truly mean soo I cant say I love her back. ive told her over and over that relationships are hard for me and i like to take things slow, and we really need to meet before anything gets too serious. last night she asked me to be her b/f and i just couldnt say yes because i just dont know her that good yet, and she was cryin because I said i want to get to know her better first before anything. I am brutally honest and i told her that, all day long for the past 3 days she has been texting me saying she misses me and wants me soo bad. yeah i want someone that wants me but i cant deal with someone that is obsessive. ive kinda hinted towards that to her.


I dont want to be mean to her but i dont know what to do. is it worth keeping going with this.





Can you give me some advice please.Beginner dating advice needed please?
I'd stop your associations here. She's way too obsessed, and certainly way too fast!





I don't believe she'll be satiated until you give her everything. So if you tell her you miss her, then you'll be telling her you love her, then you'll be in a relationship with her, then you'll ask her to marry you...etc...and you won't be ready to take that step yet. But if you don't agree to give her everything now, I don't think she'll ever stop bugging you for it. She just doesn't see things from your perspective. Usually, a girl (especially since most females are have greater empathy than males, this should be easier for her) will easily be able to see another's point of view, and know to back down. You've told her you're not ready, but she doesn't seem to understand. I'd take that as a sign that it's not gonna work. It's an all-or-nothing situation.





Normally, I'd answer trying to find a way to work it out and give many situations. However, with your situation, I just don't find it likely that she'll calm down any time soon. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that so you realize i'm not just like everyone else on here who, if there is the slighest thing wrong in a relationship, will say ';dump him/her, he/she's not worth your time.';





Good luck.Beginner dating advice needed please?
I'd say just disappear for a week or two and see what happens. She may recognize her faults, in which case you can continue at your own pace and maybe something good will come of it. Or, she may become even more nuts in which case you can forget about her altogether.
be nice and chat them up :P
You've told her how you felt about it.. about how you want to meet her first before anything gets too serious, everything else. And she's still not understanding you.





I'm all for romanticism, but to a certain point. She's not willing to understand and deal with the fact that you want to take things slow. Maybe you should consider meeting someone else because I doubt she's going to get the picture anytime soon.