I need dating advice please?

I met this guy about a month ago. His feelings for me grew fast as mine with him. However....he ended a relationship about a month ago. And he is not ready to commit to anyone. He has been talking to other girls as well. I have not slept with him and dont plan on it until I am really with him. In the meantime, it hurts me to know he is dating. I told him we should not talk and he was devestated. I told him until he figures things out and wants to focus on me, to call me. Did I do the right thing?? He said he felt sick when I told him this.I need dating advice please?
i think you did the right thing...its all kool if he doesnt want to commit and date around but if you dont feel comfortable just being one of his many girls on the side then he has to accept that just as much as you accepting his wishes....if he really likes you he will come aroundI need dating advice please?
If you really like him you did the right thing. After guys get out of a relationship its natural for them to not want another one for a while, however, dating around does ont make him seem like the decent and commited guy we're all waiting for. He is not being sensitive to your feelings and you used good judgement to distance yourself from him and showed authority, which is sexy. You've only known eachother for a month, so give it another month. If he doesn't come around, move on.
Of course you want someone to give you all their attention, but you've only been dating for a month and haven't had any sexual experiences.





Let him look around to see if there is anyone else he likes. It is better that he is searching now instead of breaking up with you and cheating a year down the road.





Just tell him that you are okay with it, and if you ever do want to break up for another girl, to just tell you about it.
You totally did the right thing! If his feelings for you are as strong as he says they are, he will come around. Remember, talk is cheap, he can say all kinds of things but you have to make him show how he feels about you. There is no reason you should have to be hurt just because he isn't ready for a relationship.
haha as bad as this sounds; good. let him feel sick. thats a good thing. let him know what he misses. dont talk to him for a while; trust me, he'll want you back so bad he;ll be beggin you. beleive me when i say this... dont go to him; let him come to you...





that way he dont control the relationship; you do :)





if he was devestated that is actually a good thing. becuase u knwo he wont forget about you. just give him a while to think about how much he misses you %26amp; he will dump that girl fast :)





good luck!!
What you did was brave and the right thing to do! Well done! :)


If he gets back to you you'll know he will focus on you. It has also shown that you aren't a walk over and that you can stand up for yourself.


Damn right he felt sick. You do when you might lose someone very important.
You did the right thing. Let him figure things out by confusing someone else. He is going to hurt someone by dating all of these other girls before he is ready.





If he really likes you he will wait to make sure his head is on straight so he doesn't ruin it.
tell him that if hes seeing other girls you dont want to interact wit him, or he would have to focus on you, if you notice hes really not happy if you 2 are together then tell him he doesnt have to stay with you i guess if hes not happy.
You did do the right thing. It seems like he wants to look around at other girls for a while but I think he might still be into you. I pretty sure he doesn't want to lose you. So maybe you should do the same thing hes doing until he becomes more focussed on you.
I think you were maybe a little hard on a guy just getting out of a relationship.





Do YOU want to be the rebound girl?? Maybe he doesn't want that with you, so he's holding off for a little while.





Being friends first never hurts a potential relationship.
Yup you did do the right thing. People are whacked when they get out of a relationship, and if he is really reacting this way to not hanging out with you, you should run. I'm all for true love, but this is not it from all I can see.
No, you've done the right thing. You are teaching him how to treat you right. If you don't set him straight from the beginning, the relationship would be defected anyway. It is a way to tell him to respect you . I am proud of you.


Way to go , girl!
yeah, you did the right thing,


it sounds like he just wants to talk to a lot of girls, just so he can choose one later when he decides he's ready.


youre not a multiple choice answer.
i think that you did the rught thing, im in the same situation, i bet it hurts him but it also hurts me. dont worry, you did the right thing.
Before you get with the dog- go to the pet store and get a real dog -- fuzzy puppies are more fun than cheating boy friends...
you did the right thing...you dont want to end being entangled ina complicated ';thing'; with him...save yourself the imminent heart break!! good luck
He's played you. He has you wrapped around his finger. Detatch yourself. You should date other people. You're young. Don't worry about this jerk.
Yes you did. It's totally understandable to want to be the only one in his life. If he comes back fabulous. If he doesn't... at least you didn't let yourself get too caught up! :)





Keep your head high :)
just be your self


im sure everything will go ......perfect.
wow it sounds like you've been really sensible and level headed throughout all of this, well done!





I think you have done the right thing with telling him its best not to talk. You want him to be with just you, and if you feel he is dating someone else whilst flirting with you, its not right all round.





Plus you have told him where you stand and have distanced yourself appropriately now by saying that the balls in his court kind of thing, when he is mature enough and ready to be with you.





This might be a difficult time, try to hang in there. If it feels as though nothing has changed after a while, you may have to work at letting him go and moving on. Obviously i dont know how close you were, only you do in this.





Hope things work themselves out


remember that you are special person, God thinks your fab, so dont let anyone take you for a ride


zoe