Help! Dating advice!?

Ok so I've been working at this new job for about 5mos now and one of co-workers really caught my eye and as I got to know him better, I began to develop a little crush on him. Never thought he felt the same way until recently he said to me he was interested in me but wasn't pursuing me because I had a boyfriend. However, we're going to hang out in a couple of weeks before he leaves to go to school to become an officer (he's military). He said he would love to start something in the few weeks we have left before he leaves and pick it back up in 4mos when he gets out of school. I have been wanting to breakup with my boyfriend for awhile, just waiting till after the holidays are over. Anyways, my question is, I'm getting confused about things between me and the co-worker because he never iniates a conversation first, unless it's work related. He has my phone number and email and I told him to text, email, or call me anytime. I even offered to drive him to the airport for when he goes home for Christmas and he said he'll let me know. Should I not try to communicate him while he's home and see if he iniates a conversation first? He's also 5yrs older than me (he's 26, I'm 21). Guys, what do you think?





Also, would it be too much to get him a going away gift like a personalized pen from Things Remembered saying good luck on it with his name? Would it weird him out? I haven't dated in over a year and a half so I'm a bit rusty and he's older than I am so Idk if older men work differently than guys my age.Help! Dating advice!?
NO, NO, NO!!





If this guy is becoming a military officer, they are going to indoctrinate him while he's there with an emphasis on personal honor and character.





That means that when he gets back a girl who was OK with something that sounds as sleazy as what you suggest is NOT going to be the kind of girl he wants when he gets back.





If you really want to be that girl, then act like a lady and don't do anything to encourage him while you are in ANY WAY still involved with guy #1.





Integrity is key.