If you were to be asked out, how would you want it to be?
Does appearance mean a lot to you as a female?
Any tips or advice on what to do or not to do?
What are you girls looking for?
I am surprised I don't see a lot of questions like this, I feel like a loser.
I'll supply a picture of myself if someone asks, but I warn you that its not pretty. Oh and guys, you can tell of your awesome pickuping ways if you want.Some dating advice for a Loser? (Female perspective greatly wanted.)?
Don't put yourself down, that only makes the situation worse. Keep up the self-esteem and smiles cause you never know, some girl could be totally in love with your smile. =)
When I look to date a guy, I want someone who's like my best friend. Someone who I can talk to about anything, I can go to with a problem and he'll let me vent and cheer me up. I want someone who I can feel safe around, I know he wouldn't hurt me. Someone who knows all my little quirks and how to cheer me up. A guy that isn't afraid to show that he is a dork and can laugh at himself.
Appearance is only the first attraction, but personality is the real killer. You don't have to be the typical blonde hair, blue eyed quarterback every girl dreams about. To me, that's actually pretty annoying. You may think that you don't look the hottest but don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own unique traits that make them loveably gorgeous. You may not be what society has deemed ';hott'; but if you show people your true personality, make them see that it's what's on the inside that counts, you'll have girls falling all over you. =)
Don't be a perverted jerk. Total and complete turn off is over pervertedness. I mean, you can't tell a guy not to be pervy, it's like telling the sun not to shine, but just, don't over do it. Please. Be a sweetheart. Don't be a sappy, I'll-cry-at-the-drop-of-a-hat type of guy. Be macho, but sensitive. Guarded, but romantic.
Basically girls love to date ';their best friend.'; If you see a girl that you like, get to know her. Talk to her, show her you're there if she ever needs anyone to talk to, to cheer up, to trust. Once you show you're vulnerability (not too vulnerable) and likeable qualities, she'll be running towards you. THEN you ask her out. =P
Guys don't have to go all out to ask a girl out. Just get her alone, talk to her and then bring into the conversation asking her out. Don't be shy about it, don't be like, ';Well, if you don't want to then, uh, I guess that's okay...'; Show a bit of confidence! But not egoness.
Don't ever feel like a loser. Trust me, there's a girl out there for every guy. Who knows? Maybe there's a girl out there right now wishing she was in your arms right this second. You'll find her. Or, who knows? Maybe she'll find you.
Good luck!! I hope I helped!
EDIT: I just saw the picture. Okay, you are by no means ugly. But you're not (again, what society deems) ';hott.'; But if someone lacks in physical appearance, a way to make up for that is self-confidence. Carry yourself with a smile, like you belong. Don't be big-headed or cocky, but just smile at people, show them that you're comfortable with yourself (even if you aren't) and they'll love that. =)Some dating advice for a Loser? (Female perspective greatly wanted.)?
you really need a picture lol but ya looks are everything even if a lot of girls dont admit it. sure though after a while when you get to know the person you might second think the look. I love asian guys mostly cuz how they do there hair also from the sound of it you need more confidence nobody wants a boyfriend complaining about how ugly they are.
Okayy, looks count a little...
I mean, to be fair what gets a guy to ';rise';. A fat girl or some sexy diva?
Hit the gym, get toned, and start working on your personality!
Personally, I'm into asian guys more than white guys.
Get flirty at work or school or whatever, and start joining clubs and activities. The more things u do, the more ppl will notice. Some of those ppl may be girls...
good luck :P
asians are hot! you kinda sound like a nerd though, no offense :]
to be asked out - has to be in person, anywhere face to face
appearance means alot until i find out your personality
just be yourself, %26amp; remember - there's someone out there for everyone.
put a picture up! :]
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there's no pickup lines or magic phrases.
It's all attitude. Being unattractive is a big minus for your situation, but being shy is probably even bigger.
Women like strong assertive types... be witty and be assertive. Focus on your strong points. emphasize whatever works for you. And use it
Pic, just because I'm curious.
And just be yourself, if you change who you are, then it isn't worth it in the end, believe me, I know from experience.
There isn't really any secret or trick to ';picking up'; a girl. Like Erin said, just be yourself. It may take a little while, but you will find someone who truly likes you for who you are.
Ugly girls are always the easiest, start there and work up the food-chain young skywalker
Do you have three sisters? (just wondering)
Pic would be nice.
What I like in my guy is confidence.. don't call yourself a loser! Some girls might be into looks a lot, but those around worth keeping around... looks are not the main thing.. I have had boyfriends that were hideous like *bad* but what drew me to em was the way they treated people and for their personality. I have had my share of good and bad bfs and looks are actually not too important.. the guy I'm with now, I love with all my heart, and to me, he's the most handsome man alive, lol but u know what they say love is blind so idk.. also, from all the guys I know, looks change. Almost all the guys I knew that were handsome all lost their charm. And all the average or ';ugly'; guys became the good looking ones..
I won't lie, my bf that I'm with now was not too good looking while in high school, he's 21 and I'm one of his first girlfriends, but now he's handsome.. sorry for the rambling.. my point is, looks aren't everything and confidence is important. I hope this helps.
Also, when he asked me out, he did it in person, when we met he came up to me and asked me if wed met before which we both knew we hadn't, and we went to the movies and all.. what I liked was that he didn't push to kiss me, he asked to kiss me.. after that he came over and asked what meant a lot was that even tho wed text and talk on the phone, he was sweet enough to go and ask me in person..
Don't worry you'll find love, when you least expect it, don't try to rush into a relationship cuz I've seen too many guys get hurt.. good luck
Wel, beating around the bush gets on my nerves. It's okay to be cute about it, but honestly, I rather like it when a guy is straightforward about how he feels about me and asking me out. By being cute about it, I mean like this:
Guy: ';What are you doing this weekend?';
Girl: ';I don't know. Probably just sitting around.';
Guy: ';Well, would you like company?';
Something cute and simple like that. You don't always have to straight out say, 'Do you wanna go out with me?'
As for appearance, yeah, I hate to say it, but just about everyone is a little shallow. You might not be the type of guy they look at more than once, but if you try to get to know them and they bow you off, trust, they're not worth your time and you can find someone better.
Uhm, don't be an idiot? I mean, you're smart I'm sure, if you sense something isn't going right, try to change your course. It's okay to test the waters, just know how to look for signs that things might be going downhill. I can't help you with what girls are looking for because we're all different.
If you need more help, feel free to ask.
1. If you admit your over weight, go work out and make it your hobbie, it will also increase your self esteem and confidence....trust me
2. Get a cool hair do, ; none of that asian cut that looks nerdy - ger rid of the geek look that a lot of asian guys have....PAY the money if you have to .... go to a hair salon, not a barber shop or cheap super cuts..
HAIR MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE
3. Shop at Pacific sunwear, hollister, Gap, but not Sears or Kmart...
5. Be a follower when it comes to style, but when it comes to attitude and personality; BE A LEADER, Own your ****, be yourself..(and besides this log, don't ever tell anyone that you think you're a loser ever again, not even to yourself, as you'll begin to brainwash yourself into thinking that you are a loser..good luck sweety.i'm pretty sure you are hot,
6. Last but not least, I personally think that all Aian guys that are 6 feet tall are officially HOT!....Asian guys are cute, it's the small size that screws them over, i think:)
A picture would probably be helpful.
I love Asian guys, by the way. I am surprised that not every girl does but whatever.
If I were to be asked out, I would prefer it in person and as least awkward as possible. I would actually want someone to ask me on a date(Ex. ';Want to go see a movie this Thursday?';) rather than ';Will you go out with me?'; Lammme. If a guy is going to ask me out, I'd prefer he has confidence, like most girls. It's alright if he's nervous but to an extent.
Appearance matters to almost everyone. You should keep your appearance up to the best of your abilities. It's harsh but that's how we judge people, by the way they look. If you're bothered by your weigh, try dieting or excercising...or both. If it doesn't bother you all that much, I wouldn't worry about it.
What not to do? Oh, there's so much. Basically, don't be clingy, creepy, insensitive or perverted.
Different girls look for different things. Overall be confident. Girls like that.
Good luck!
By the way, I looked at your picture. So not even bad. If you lost some weight(not much), you'd be a ladies man, I'm tellin' ya [:
Hey, just remember to stay yourself. Sounds stupid, but it's really the best advice. If you want to actually get somewhere like long-term, then faking won't cut it. You sound awesome, and all you really need is confidence. Maybe instead of always thinking of ways to pick up girls, try to get on their good side. Small talk. A quick wit and comedic timing are powerful tools (my bf is so funny like that xD). Make sure you're showing the best of YOU. Not the best of what you think you need to be. If you hit the gym more often that won't hurt, and make sure you don't have b.o. (no offense, just bigger guys tend to get it worse). But getting a girlfriend is like making a friend. But it goes farther. Good luck :)
Oh, by the way, girls aren't all shallow. :) In fact, I happen to think ugly guys have it better, because they attract the girls that look inside. Girls get tired of hot jerks fast, and eventually they start looking inward. Because when you love someone, you don't love them for their face. You love them for their personality. And I'm not just saying this, but you don't want the girls that chase after the lookers. they might be hot, but if they're going for the cute guys over the sweet ones, they really aren't looking for a real relationship. Just a piece of ***. Lol
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