Lesbian Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?

I met a girl on match.com over a month ago. She seemed very sweet and was adorable. We were chatting and she agreed to go out with me... then the communication went cold.





I found out through Facebook she was dating another girl from the site and just left me hanging, after telling me she'd date me. The other girl is very pretty, but also seems vulgar and obnoxious. It seemed like their personalities would clash because she's super sweet.





Now their relationship fizzled and a month later, she e-mailed me asking me what's up %26amp; if I want to go out.





Is she acting like I'm her doormat, available when she wants me to be?


Should I be worried she'll do this again - keep me around until someone else comes along, and ditch me again?


Or am I reading too much into this and being too sensitive? Is this how dating and match.com work? (I have limited experience being from a small town and not being interested in men.)





Do I say anything to her about what happened? Let it go? Not respond at all?





There aren't any other good lesbians in my small town, which is why I'm inclined to give her a second chance... but do I deserve better than the way she treated me, just ignoring me for a month, then expecting me to be around when she was done with the other girl? Or am I taking this situation too seriously?Lesbian Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?
Honestly, I don't think you should respond to her at all - it sounds like she just kept you on the ';back-burner'; so to speak, and she's not worth your time at all. Don't settle for someone like that just because you feel like you won't meet anyone else... wait for someone who wants you and only you, because trust me, that's when it will be worth it :) Love is a funny thing, and it comes to you in the most unexpected ways :)Lesbian Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?
Yes, you deserve SO much better, and no.


Never give someone like that a second chance. They wouldn't do the same for you.





I know how it is to live in a small, homophobic town.


It's very hard to find gay friends within an 1 1/2 hour radius. It sucks, but you never need to stoop that low, or else all your dating experiences from then on out will be just like that, because you are allowing yourself to be treated like that. Stand up for yourself, be strong, and don't rely on match.com for dates.