Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?

I met a girl on match.com over a month ago. She seemed very sweet and was adorable. We were chatting and she agreed to go out with me... then the communication went cold.





I found out through Facebook she was dating another girl from the site and just left me hanging, after telling me she'd date me. The other girl is very pretty, but also seems vulgar and obnoxious. It seemed like their personalities would clash because she's super sweet.





Now their relationship fizzled and a month later, she e-mailed me asking me what's up %26amp; if I want to go out.





Is she acting like I'm her doormat, available when she wants me to be?


Should I be worried she'll do this again - keep me around until someone else comes along, and ditch me again?


Or am I reading too much into this and being too sensitive? Is this how dating and match.com work? (I have limited experience being from a small town and not being interested in men.)





Do I say anything to her about what happened? Let it go? Not respond at all?





There aren't any other good lesbians in my small town, which is why I'm inclined to give her a second chance... but do I deserve better than the way she treated me, just ignoring me for a month, then expecting me to be around when she was done with the other girl? Or am I taking this situation too seriously?Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?
leave her hanging, if she ever confronts you just tell her she had her chance. relationships work or they don't work people put too much thought into what people are really thinking or feeling, actions speak louder than words and her actions basically just told you you're not worth even the most common courtesy. If somebody wants to be with you they'll jump at any opportunity to see you and get to know you better.Dating Advice - Tell Her To Flake Off? Or Go Out?
Give her a second chance but just take the whole situation very casually. Don't rush into a relationship with her, just tell her that you will go on a few dates with her and see where it goes from there. If she screws up again, then you'll know shes not worth it. But yes, I would give her the benefit of the doubt and see where it takes you!
Give her a second chance, But do not rush this relationship seriously. She might be using you as a doormat. Go out have fun and enjoy yourself but be very careful. and it will be better if you both were just friends. cause she might brake your heart again, And you know the situation a lot better where to you stand.
She may be sweet, but I don't think she'd be worthwhile if she's treating you like that. Make her feel like she needs to work to ';have'; you. Cause if you're always available, you'll always be that doormat. Don't worry about her, find another 'match' and see if she pursues after you.
Thats pretty bad, I don't know that I'd put up with it. She basically had two options and dumped you for the other girl, when it failed she came back for her second choice. Makes you feel special doesn't it?


She might have learnt and matured, or she might be truely sorry she made the wrong choice.
i'd say give it a go! i don't think you're being too sensitive but i do think you should talk to her and let her know that you're not going to be, as you said, her 'doormat' in the future.


good luck! hope i helped
i say give her a chance. We don't know the circumstances surrounding that relationship she just had.


give it a try, jsut watch your heart.





Blessings,


maria
go out whit her if she looks hot bang her couple times and leave her
ew..
Tell her to take her fickle little behind and walk right back out of your life.





Although I'm not gay, I have friends who are, and those who live in small towns admit that it's tough for them to hook up with someone of quality.





I suggest you stay single and celibate until you can save up enough $$ to move to a bigger community more supportive to your lifestyle and orientation. That may take time because it will take considerable cash (like several thousand dollars) to relocate to another place where alternative lifestyles are well-supported - and it will be lonely for a while - but settling for the public bicycle because she's the only thing available is really beneath you.
Being a straight women, I feel compelled to reply to your question. I've never dated online but, all dating is pretty much the same. My answer to this question is not determined by sex. I say let her go.


I would say go out, but judging by your long drawn out question, I can tell that your emotions play a role in your decisions. Therefore you'll more than likely get emotionally attached and she'll do the same thing again. Thus doing exactly what you wanted to prevent. Honestly, it works the same way with men and women.


Peep Game.


1st she lies. Honestly, she didn't think that you would've looked that far into her on facebook.


But going on. If the chick looks vulgar as you said, then that lets you know the type of people that she's into. If in the pic they seem boo-ed up then trust the chick has something she like. Chances are the girl just wants to have fun.





So if your only looking for fun and not some long drawn out relationship, then go out. But if your emotions play a role then stay away.





By the way, men aren't so bad. Nothing hurts a try. And hopefully you're not knocking before trying.