Dating Advice: '; What does a woman think when I guy says ';lets get together soon.'; Is that too vague?

I guess I am just trying to gauge her interest and not be too pushy.


I am recently divorced with no kids. Recenly reconnected with an old co-worker (female). We have a lot in common. Went out for drinks once, have talked on the phone a number of times and text each other several times during the week (she's cool with my divorce). I'll mention to her ';Let's get together soon maybe for coffee or to catch a movie.'; She'll reply ';Sure.'; But that's where it stalls. It seems like we never end up getting together. And she does mention she'd like to get together too. I'm looking to just hang out with her and get to know her better. I do think we'd be good together but I'm not trying make her my steady girlfriend today or tomorrow. I guess deep down I am hoping that slowly we will end up in a dating relationship. I guess maybe I need to change the way I ask her to hang out. More like ';Let's meet for coffee next Saturday morning.'; I guess maybe I need to be less wishy washy.Dating Advice: '; What does a woman think when I guy says ';lets get together soon.'; Is that too vague?
Being a recent divoree...I know where you are coming from...You did it right...You wanted to see if there was interest and there seems to be...Next step...make a plan and go with it. Mention a date or time...bring it up to her and see how she reacts. ';Hey can we get some coffee next Saturday if you are free?'; If you are more comfortable...do it over txts...at least if she says that she can't...then it won't be in person and less of a sting. Just throw it out there...the worst she can say is no. If you don't try then you will never know :)Dating Advice: '; What does a woman think when I guy says ';lets get together soon.'; Is that too vague?
Depends on a females' feelings, and true...do not be too pushy or the woman knows your up to somethin'. Trust me, i get chased by boys all over the school....and i dont like it...


Its not to vague....well, the reason your getting divorced is because your too pushy (no offense) Anyways, Good Luck!
she think's you're stalling and not interested.





Definitely be less wishy washy - Charlie Brown didn't get laid.
Asking for certain days is best. Usually, it works best to ask more like this: ';Would you be available for coffee Saturday morning?';





As a rule of thumb, putting it in the form of a question is better than setting a date without leaving room for her to say her schedule does or doesn't allow. If you were talking to a younger girl, 21 or younger, the statement method may work as a sign of ability to take control, but after that age, most women prefer being included in decisions.





But, as you clarified, asking to meet soon for coffee is fine, it at least gives a purpose, but without a time frame, it's not helping anything progress. Another option available before a real relationship is lunch or breakfast. That's something you'll do with family members or coworkers just the same, so it won't be taken as anything too strong.





Point is you definitely need to set up times rather than leaving it open-ended.
You need to be more direct. When a man says, ';let's get together soon...'; a woman always takes that as a sign that he really isn't into her all that much. That is why she never bothers...You have to tell her, ';let's get together tomorrow for drinks'; I think that would work better.
Maybe she is not sure. Give her a call and see if she wants to get together or ask her in person. kh
first off, dont seem desperate becuase she will move on. dont be so damn vauge. just keep your cool and see if she will hangout one *specific* day of the week. if she says no- move on, if yes and she cancels than move on. she is either not getting what you are trying to get to or she sees you as no more than a co-worker/friend. maybe dont talk for a while because you just might take a trip for one to the ';friend zone'; and once you enter the gates are pretty much closed for a loooong time.
You seem to be in the same siduation as I am, but I am a female. The answers everyone gave me is to just ask him out, but for you just ask her out for a specific time and day. Maybe she is waiting for that, you never know. Good luck
Let's get together soon is way too vague, and sounds like you honestly don't want to get together again at all. She probably thinks you are kind of brushing her off. Set an actual date. A day, place, time, etc. And follow through. She is probably nervous about getting hurt and doesn't want to let her guard down. Show her that you like her, and ask her out again. See where things go. Best of luck.