Anyway, so I get back, and again it's the same story. We only hang out once and again only with a friend. She leaves for the states and continues to text me. Close to the end of her vacation (I had no idea when she was coming back), I stopped texting her because she stopped texting me. I assumed she lost interest and thats it.
1.5 weeks later I get a call from her out of the blue, saying she was ';angry'; that I stopped talking to her. She said it in a joking manner. She also told me she was now back in town and that I should call her the next day (note: I wasn't hitting on her at all).
So I call her the next day and she doesn't answer. The next day comes along and I hear nothing from her. I send her a text that night and suddenly she seems as if she really wants to be with me.
It's been a few days, where we've texted eachother - we've gone through some drama with both our best friends breaking up (and getting back together). During this time my friend reveals to me that there was in fact a point where she lost interest in me, but that she's apparently into me again. Tonight I asked her to call me so I could talk to her.
My question, is it a bad idea to just confront her about the whole situation and lack of commitment? I was never smothering her (the story sort of makes it seem like it). I'm planning to say....
'; in the last 3 months i've only seen you three times. i know we were both on vacation but I don't want to be strung along. not long ago i stopped talking to you because i was pretty sure you werent interested anymore, and honestly now that i've heard it from someone else, if that person had bothered to tell me, I would've stopped talking to you a while ago. I know you're busy and i dont want to force you to make time for me, i just want to have an honest answer if you really want to do this.';
She's 19 and i'm 20.Dating advice - should i confront this girl?
Talk about cold feet...
It seems like she like leading you on and is very unsure about starting up a real relationship with you. I think you should confront her, but don't be too serious about it or anything. Just bring up in a jokingly manner but at the same time let her know that you're interested and what your intentions are and if she's not down, she's obviously a waste of your time. But seriously you should bring it up casually and go with the flow. It also seems like she's a little unsure about you. Well idk hope that helps. I say you let her know how you feel about this whole situation, just promise me you won't allow yourself to sound desperate; that will definitely guarantee cool points loss...
Sorry for being a bit repetitious.Dating advice - should i confront this girl?
simply put. Young adults at her and your age need to not be so pushy, nor expect too much. Just live and let live. Relax and go with the flo of things. If one day shes interested, enjoy. If one day she isn't, decide for your own, is she worth giving her your time. if so, then enjoy again. if not, don't hate her, don't push her away or reject her. Just play her game. Its early, you both had JUSt met. your neither married to one another nor spent ANY length of time together that's worth considering or titling ';commitment';.
Don't take it personal with her actions and reactions. it's ALL just a GAME at that stage in dating.
if she persist to act the same way after say, dating more, spending more time together and for a period of months... then have these doubts, questions to ask and issues.
until then, relax, live...
and let live,
:)
I am 33 years old, and been there done that and understand people, their mindsets, motives and desires a little better than i did at your age. I hope you take my advice. It will make your life, her life and the life you and her may spend together in the near future, more enjoyable and less dramatic and chaotic.
Wish you the best.
:)
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